There are times we find ourselves watching or smack in the middle of a disagreement. What happens when everyone is against us? That’s what we’re going to dig into today.
It’s easy to stand on the outside and be supportive, provide guidance, even facilitate…but when the tables are turned…we might be the one that is right and everyone else is wrong. Or, we might be right and so is everyone else.
It takes self awareness to recognize that there is more than one path to solve a problem and get to the end goal. It takes willingness to be curious to figure out if there is a way that supports everyone’s perspective … or build consensus on a combined idea that might not make everyone happy yet is clearly what’s necessary for the situation.
Starting the conversation…
- What do you do when no one else agrees with you?
It’s easy to stand on the outside and be supportive, provide guidance, even facilitate…but when the tables are turned…we might be the one that is right and everyone else is wrong. Or, we might be right and so is everyone else. It takes self awareness to recognize that there is more than one path to solve a problem and get to the end goal.
Host: Jessica Dewell
What you will hear:
What we do when people don’t agree with us.
What, how, where…avoid WHY. (Why creates defensiveness.)
Go forward when no one else is with us.
Do we ask for help – even if different thinkers? …Sometimes.
When like-ability trumps productivity.
When the leader is the bottleneck – because leaders don’t want to develop.
HBR article summary: Competent Jerks and Loveable Fools.
Approachability and pressure.
Teams don’t have one weak link.
Communication (or lack of) patterns what the team will talk about.
The more open, and real, communication is within a group, increases value of each person.
Albert Einstein: “I speak to everyone the same way, whether he is the garbage man or the president of the university.”
Leaders stop and pause before responding.
It’s hard speak up (and the excuses we tell ourselves).
When we don’t communicate (in agreement and disagreement), burnout is the result.
We have to have courage to have a voice that is different that everyone else.
Notable & Quotable
Jessica Dewell: The purpose of being on a team..is BEING on the team. We can still disagree.
Jessica Dewell: The wrong time is the exact right time to avoid a bigger mistake down the road.
Jessica Dewell: Every link in a chain has a strong point in a weak point.
Jessica Dewell: Speak up for the best in others.
Jessica Dewell: Part of productivity, sometimes what needs to be said…needs to be said.
Jessica Dewell: There is a when and a how to say what needs to be said.
Tags: conflict, resolution, disagreement, defensiveness, relationships, weak link, conflict resolution, team building, communication, leader, development, strengths, weaknesses, skills, achievement, respect, emotion management, agreeableness, productivity, courage